Except Your Life Can Be Better

When I was a small child I thought I would do something big. I would change the world all by myself. Give the world a gift that would make the world a better place. I was going to do big things.

I decided instead, actually it was decided for me, the world was not ready for what I was going to do. I decided that I would not do that thing I was going to do to improve the world.

That decision left me with nothing to do. I had no real goals. I had no urge to accomplish a certain thing. I had no interest in making world size changes. This was confirmed by my two doctors, speaking to my parents while I was in the room with them. ‘He will be OK at many things, but he will not be really good at any one thing.’ It was decreed in that moment, or so I believed, that I should be a jack of all trades and a master of none.

I went through some years trying to do just OK at everything. Never trying to excel at any of them. What was the point. I already turned my back on what I could have done. Those mighty men in their white coats decreed my future. My parents believed it, so who was I to think differently.

As a child, I noticed some people lived their lives emotionally stunted. They matured to a certain point and then stopped growing. People were very good at this, but not that. Some people knew how to manipulate others, but did not have it in them to use that manipulation to help others.

Other people were strong spiritually. They could have moved mountains if they weren’t scared to try. I think they never had the thought to try. They could move mountains if they wanted to, but something was in the way.

That something is the word ‘except’. I would be a rocket scientist, except I’m not smart enough. I would play in the NBA, except I joined a gang instead. I would go to college,  except I am thinking about dropping out of high school.

Except is a powerful word. We all could create the life we want, and surpass all our dreams, except. Except something got in the way. Except, we went this way, instead of sticking it out. Except, the other was was easier.

When I thought I was old enough to make a difference, I had forgotten what I was capable of. I forgot that I had the ability to change the world. I might have remembered, except for whatever reason I chose not to listen to myself tell me I could have a different life. Except for those rare moments when I remembered what I thought I would do, and think, “Yeh, I could do that, but this is easier. Everyone expects this of me.”

We have the power in us to change our world. Except we keep forgetting we can change the world. Except it is easier to treat every day as the day before. Except we now accept that ho hum and boredom is good enough, except when we remember we do not have to live this way.

We have something in common with cats. You can not make a cat go anywhere when standing behind it. At least not without the cat wanting move. The old saying is, “Like herding cats.” Neither can you push a limp spaghetti noodle.

It’s sort of funny on some level. I have known this all my life, but I thought if I said the right thing, wrote the write words, I could, through sheer willpower change the world into a better place. Except, like a stubborn two year old, I refused to see that there were few exceptions to how the world worked, and herding cats or pushing limp noodles takes a lot of energy.

Except for when I forget, I am giving up on changing the world by pushing. I am one person, and I can not by my words or sentences change you or anything. Except I am sure I will forget this thought, and say more, and write more.

Instead, I will continue to grow myself. I am as long as I am alive, I am a work in progress. I try this, and I do that. As I fail often, success seems to be more frequent. I like to think I am figuring it all out, except I spend time trying the same things over and expect different results.

It is okay to be different. Except when I forget. Except when I forget I am not here to change the world by myself.

I now accept new ideas as possible and correct, except when I forget. Once I remember, I give a new idea a try, except it doesn’t always work for me the way it did for another. Stuff happens, or not.

Everything we know about the world we live in is probably only partially true. Maybe we get two thoughts right, and one thought wrong. Maybe we play games with ourselves so we can pretend this is how is is, except when we choose not to pretend.

From here on out, except when I forget, I will lead by example. I will no longer try to herd cats, and push limp spaghetti noodles. I will continue to make my life what is best for me.

Except I hope you to come to feel this way too, and join me. Except I hope you decide to add excitement into your life. Except I hope you fail once or twice before making your life the best life possible.
When I was a small child I thought I would do something big. I would change the world all by myself. Give the world a gift that would make the world a better place. I was going to do big things.

I decided instead, actually it was decided for me, the world was not ready for what I was going to do. I decided that I would not do that thing I was going to do to improve the world.

That decision left me with nothing to do. I had no real goals. I had no urge to accomplish a certain thing. I had no interest in making world size changes. This was confirmed by my two doctors, speaking to my parents while I was in the room with them. ‘He will be OK at many things, but he will not be really good at any one thing.’ It was decreed in that moment, or so I believed, that I should be a jack of all trades and a master of none.

I went through some years trying to do just OK at everything. Never trying to excel at any of them. What was the point. I already turned my back on what I could have done. Those mighty men in their white coats decreed my future. My parents believed it, so who was I to think differently.

As a child, I noticed some people lived their lives emotionally stunted. They matured to a certain point and then stopped growing. People were very good at this, but not that. Some people knew how to manipulate others, but did not have it in them to use that manipulation to help others.

Other people were strong spiritually. They could have moved mountains if they weren’t scared to try. I think they never had the thought to try. They could move mountains if they wanted to, but something was in the way.

That something is the word ‘except’. I would be a rocket scientist, except I’m not smart enough. I would play in the NBA, except I joined a gang instead. I would go to college,  except I am thinking about dropping out of high school.

Except is a powerful word. We all could create the life we want, and surpass all our dreams, except. Except something got in the way. Except, we went this way, instead of sticking it out. Except, the other was was easier.

When I thought I was old enough to make a difference, I had forgotten what I was capable of. I forgot that I had the ability to change the world. I might have remembered, except for whatever reason I chose not to listen to myself tell me I could have a different life. Except for those rare moments when I remembered what I thought I would do, and think, “Yeh, I could do that, but this is easier. Everyone expects this of me.”

We have the power in us to change our world. Except we keep forgetting we can change the world. Except it is easier to treat every day as the day before. Except we now accept that ho hum and boredom is good enough, except when we remember we do not have to live this way.

We have something in common with cats. You can not make a cat go anywhere when standing behind it. At least not without the cat wanting move. The old saying is, “Like herding cats.” Neither can you push a limp spaghetti noodle.

It’s sort of funny on some level. I have known this all my life, but I thought if I said the right thing, wrote the write words, I could, through sheer willpower change the world into a better place. Except, like a stubborn two year old, I refused to see that there were few exceptions to how the world worked, and herding cats or pushing limp noodles takes a lot of energy.

Except for when I forget, I am giving up on changing the world by pushing. I am one person, and I can not by my words or sentences change you or anything. Except I am sure I will forget this thought, and say more, and write more.

Instead, I will continue to grow myself. I am as long as I am alive, I am a work in progress. I try this, and I do that. As I fail often, success seems to be more frequent. I like to think I am figuring it all out, except I spend time trying the same things over and expect different results.

It is okay to be different. Except when I forget. Except when I forget I am not here to change the world by myself.

I now accept new ideas as possible and correct, except when I forget. Once I remember, I give a new idea a try, except it doesn’t always work for me the way it did for another. Stuff happens, or not.

Everything we know about the world we live in is probably only partially true. Maybe we get two thoughts right, and one thought wrong. Maybe we play games with ourselves so we can pretend this is how is is, except when we choose not to pretend.

From here on out, except when I forget, I will lead by example. I will no longer try to herd cats, and push limp spaghetti noodles. I will continue to make my life what is best for me.

Except I hope you to come to feel this way too, and join me. Except I hope you decide to add excitement into your life. Except I hope you fail once or twice before making your life the best life possible.

Flatten, Fix, Clean, and Polish, Like New

Having the Internet only a few clicks away anyone with even rudimentary searching skills can become enough of an expert on any subject within an hour, so there should be no need to be taken in by expensive health, ‘Fixes’

A great example is a certain berry that swept the country a few years ago. It was a weight loss and health reviving miracle according to the stories that were out there. People were losing weight without trying. They were feeling better than they ever had in their life. The powers contained in this one little berry were almost unfathomable. It was a hidden secret only recently discovered by mankind after tens of thousands of years of foraging for food. What a well kept secret this berry was.

All the hype and  claims made me curious one day. I checked the nutrient properties of this wonder berry and read its major health changing ingredient was magnesium. In fact that was the berries whole claim to fame. The berry contained high amounts of magnesium per volume.

Clicking over to a local pharmacy website, I found that I could buy a huge bottle of magnesium in 250 mg pills that could be chopped and quartered for about five dollars a bottle. Clicking a few more times, I found magnesium is needed in small doses for good health. In amounts a little larger, magnesium calms muscle spasms. In larger amounts, for me, the 250 mg pill size, it ensured I would never be constipated no matter what I ate.

Wow, buy the berry product for $30.00 or more dollars per bottle of 100, plus shipping, or buy magnesium pills from a pharmacy for about $5.00 for a bottle of 250, or about a three year supply for me. That was a no brainer decision.

Every week on the infomercials there is a new fat burning, muscle building machine or program that sells for somewhere over $100.00 and peaks out in the new car price range if you need the best available. All of them do what they claim to some extent. Some do it in a slow gently manner, and others quickly have you fit beyond for Special Forces school – If you can stick with them, that is.

All most of us need to get fit is to get off the couch and away from the kitchen for an hour a day. We could go walking, jogging, running, to the gym, hiking, climbing, try riding our almost brand new bicycles in the garage. That is all we really need to do.

There are some things we should not do on the Internet when it comes to us. Finding that perfect person comes to mind, but hopefully by now, we all know they do not exist outside of us. We should not be on the Internet diagnosing our most recent ailment. Self prescribing medicines or trying to buy prescription medicines online from overseas. What we can do however is be realistic and climb out of our head when evaluating health products, and think about our desire to make change in our life.

Owning a $5000.00 tread mill that lets you feel like you are running through the Swiss Alps, or strolling across a beach in Greece does not do a thing for us unless we are actually using it. If the cost does not meet the desire factor, it is not a good investment. If the cost meets the desire, there are cheaper alternatives that will provide the same end result for a lot less. Exercise and good health does not happen without personal involvement.

If you find yourself watching infomercials, or stumble across some neat item that makes promises bigger than is reasonable, click on to another page. If you can’t get the idea of owning whatever is out of your thoughts, do some research. What is really being said about it away from the website. What reviews are out there on it? Are they real reviews or planted reviews?

Finally, if you are not really willing to do whatever you are looking at buying can do for you, save your money. One other good thing to remember is nothing works as advertised for everybody. Most reasonable items work for many people, but that does not mean it is a good fit for you. Be realistic before spending your hard earned money.

Putting America to work?

I thought maybe tutoring would be a good way to jump start the economy until I arrived at the bottom line. Few people spend any money on education if they can help it.Other than the taxes collected by various governments, most people do not spend much time thinking about education. Unless they are unemployed of course.

Those who are doing well and care about the financial success of their children, already have paid tutors working with their children. The rest of the people hope for the best outcome for their children’s future. Everyone who can afford a tutor for their children already have one.

As we have no excess brain pool in America, it may be time to turn focus to creating jobs the average unskilled person can actually do. The average unemployed American is essentially unskilled because when they lose their job, they have little in the way of needed skill sets to propel them into a new line of work.

Some fortunate people jobs they can support themselves and their family on. The rest end up settling for jobs that pay less than they used to make, or end up not working at all, because there is no need to work for almost nothing.

We have a pool of generally unskilled labor which needs to be put to work, both for their own well being and for the country’s well being. What can unskilled labor do for a living? Or perhaps a better question is what is unskilled labor willing to do for a living?

In some developing countries (by choice or politics) people take the place of heavy machinery. A few hundred people can replace heavy road building equipment if they have to. Hmmm, removing several hundred thousands of dollars in machinery and putting people to work could work?

Except for the people who build, maintain, and operate that heavy machinery would not be part of the manual labor pool. Americans in general are not too excited about doing manual or menial labor. If they were we would not have the illegal alien numbers in our country we have today. I think manual labor involving actual work and/or low pay is not acceptable to the average American worker.

Oregon has had people at the gas stations that pump your gas. The ‘official’ reason as I understand the situation is environmental protection. A good secondary reason is having someone pump your gas puts people to work. Perhaps we could adopt this policy in every state. Of course the price of gas would go up to cover the costs of the people manning the pumps. Most of us are price conscious and we would not support this idea either.

When I was in the Air Force, the on base grocery stores had Baggers that worked for tips. If we carried this over into the general population all we would be doing is putting people out of work as the Baggers are now employees of the store where they work.

Maid work and gardening are possibilities, but that falls into the line of paying a tutor to tutor your children. How many people can or would be willing to help someone stay financially solvent by parting with their own hard earned income.

There does not seem to be many unskilled workers needed in America other than the labor force which is already in place. No one is happy with the situation except the immigrants, some of whom are illegal, but we accept it as the way it is. Who else wants to do the type of work they are willing to do for those low wages? Not many hard working Americans, that’s for sure!