Hurting Yourself More Doesn’t Make it Better

I feel sad for certain people. They never had a chance to start out pain free. I wish I could reach into them and pull out their pain and hurt. It hurts to see people who have a need to go out of their way to make themselves an even  bigger target. Certain aspects of our personality are readily apparent. They do not need a sign to announce their self destructive behavior.

Sometimes as a result of prolonged pain and feelings of separation, a shattered ego runs their life so well the rest of the world and the people in it become fictitious. They learn to act in any manner they choose, because people and things are only around for their pleasure, to do with what they please. People and things become unreal, only they exist in their carefully crafted world.

It must really hurt to tell the world this about yourself

It must really hurt to tell the world this about yourself

If you can see yourself driving this car, please wake up. Do you have anyone in your life who is a real person and an honest friend? Is there anyone who wants to share their life with you? Anyone who is willing to trust you with their life? Are your parents and siblings proud of you and what you have become? Is there anyone who loves and  trusts you enough to marry you and have children with you?

I hope when the wake up moment comes for this young Woman, it comes with a whisper, and not a thunderbolt. I am afraid there have been too many thunderbolts already in this young Woman’s life. Let’s hope she regains her real life back before too much more pain, isolation and self destruction.

Art of Saying Hello

One of the most overwhelming psychological problems facing homeless people is isolation. Think of yourself as homeless for a moment. You have no family that wants you around, no home, no address. You spend today day trying to make it to tomorrow.

Most people do not want to talk to you, they give you some change to make you go away. People fear you, people make you invisible. No one gives a crap if you are around tomorrow or not. Now imagine that is your life, and you are walking down the street, and you say hello to a passing stranger in an attempt to reach out and make a connection, however small. You may as well have said hello to a tree.

If you were alive in 1614, saying hello would not be an issue. You would seldom venture more than a short walk from your home, especially alone. You would be born, grow old, and die with people who live close to you. Once you walked more than a short way from your house, you were a stranger, either someone to leave alone, someone to rob, or worse.

Because you are alive in 2014, quite a bit has changed. You are safer now than in any time in history. You do not have to worry about war and plunder arriving in your neighborhood. You can walk down the street without being robbed. You can drive across town or across country without fear of being raped, robbed, murdered, or captured for slavery. Sure it happens, but let’s be real for a minute, it is not something likely to happen to you. There are easier targets for those people who prey on others.

We now know the bogyman is a fable. Dirty old men are very hard to find. Your neighbor or the person walking towards you is probably not a psychopath concealing a bloody knife they are about to use on you.

Don’t be afraid to say hello to a passing stranger, homeless person, adult or child you do not know. You never know how much one word may mean to another. Saying hello costs nothing, and has the ability to change both your worlds. Unfortunately in extremely rare instances, your saying hello may be the last word you ever say to another human being, or the last word they ever hear.

No longer do you need to be frightened of strangers. All fear does is lead to isolation and loneliness. The greatest love stories, the strongest relationships, and the greatest people you have ever met or read about practice the art of saying hello.

Saying, “Hello” is more than good manners. When you say hello, you acknowledge the other persons existence and worthiness. You let them know they are alive and they are somebody. You may be the only person the other person will see today, and you connected with them in a small insignificant way.