One of the funny things about us is our brains do not differentiate between what is real and what happens in our mind. It is all the same thing to our brain. This means it is all the same thing to us too at some level. We fuse memories, mix dreams and waking time, invent memories that never really happened.
Yawn, so what. What makes this special is because our brain functions this way, we can trick ourselves into acting and being different than we are now. We can then accomplish some pretty amazing things with a little planning and patience.
What to do is trick your brain and your body into doing something different. When something in your life is not working, it is better to change than fight what doesn’t work. We can do this because of our ego which is for most of us, our window to the world. We are not ruling our life because we do not know any better. Our ego runs our life instead.
I have written a few posts on my other blog about ego, but I want to write about it here too because it is so important. No one ever taught us that we have to tend to our ego other than following some basic mores. Ego is a tyrant, and without watching it, Ego does what ego wants which is not always good for us.
Ego does what is easiest and what works over half the time. Ego does not care that in the long run we are hurting ourself, or or limiting our life in some way(s). Ego only cares that the easiest approach is best for it.
With direction from us, our ego will make any changes we insist on making. Changes in our personality or lifestyle suited to almost any situation or life style. Think of ego as a large rotating piece of glass with hundreds of polished lenses which turn in a circle. Without our watching Ego has decided which lenses we use in our life.
Any time we want to act or be different, ego rotates lenses until ego finds the correct lens. This is done without our being aware of it most of the time. If it is easy, we keep this using this lens.
This ego lens idea is what we may use to accomplish amazing things in our life as long as we remain aware of the goal(s) we have set for yourself. We can change how we see the world, and keep using our new lens until it becomes a well used lens.
The difficulty is allowing yourself to shift lenses to the lens you want to experience your life changes through. If it is not easy, or we find it uncomfortable at first, we are willing to stop using this new lens.
Losing weight is an example many can relate to. Most people are not successful losing weight because they are living their life with an ego lens made for being overweight. How can anyone expect to lose weight when they are living their life as someone living life as an overweight person?
It is hard to shift your ego lens off of living life overweight. We have been living through this lens for a long time, and we are comfortable with it. There are no surprises, and we know how each day is going to be.
As long as you are not focused on what you want, life is boringly the same each day.
The key is taking an active role in using a new lens to view your life through. Decide you want to live your life as someone who is not overweight. Now, you need to constantly remember for a time you are now living your life as someone who is not overweight.
Now when it comes to food you will need to go through a process. Ask yourself is this food or is this meal something you want to eat as a person who is not overweight? Or is it something you want to eat for another reason?
If you find you want food for other reasons than nourishment, you have to stop and think why you are doing this. What has happened that you see food in this manner? There may be many reasons, and you will have to find them and eliminate them as they happen.
At first this will feel uncomfortable, after all this is something new for you. Here you are living as a person who is not overweight when you know you are overweight. Up ’till now, every time you want to ate and did not need to eat, you felt like you should just go ahead and eat.
Stop and determine why you feel this way. Is it something which was told to you? It may be something that happened to you? It may be something you came to believe? It may be your way of hiding?
If you find why you think this way, stop and discover why you want to eat when you do not need to. Once you know why, you have a decision to make. Do you want to hold on to these feelings, or do you want to banish them from your life as they add no value to you?
If you really want to lose weight, banish them from your thinking and beliefs. If you want to keep them (for whatever reason), quit trying to lose weight.
As you change your thinking you will notice a difference in yourself. A wonderful change will start taking place, and remain aware of the foods you are eating are foods for the right reasons.
You will see the pounds start dropping off as if by magic. You won’t be too hungry, you will eat healthier foods, and you will be okay with the changes to your diet and lifestyle.
If what you have read does not make sense to you, read it again. It may be something you never thought of, or considered until reading this, and it may take a bit of time to come to terms with it.
Changing your thinking in this manner is what most successful people have done in their own lives, as they initially struggled to find their success. If they can do it, so can you. You are not selling yourself out, cheating, being fake, or any other negative thought that comes into you mind.
What you are doing is choosing a different way of seeing and being in your world. You choose to no longer see the world through an overweight person lens which is not working for you. Changing your lens to a view that is aligned with what you have chosen from this moment on your life will start to change.
OK, for some people who have certain mindsets (in the past, I resembled this remark), this may feel like fraud. It is not fraud, and it is not, “…fake it till you make it”. What you are doing is making a choice to live your life differently than you have been because it is not working for you.
What you are doing is role playing. Becoming an actor for a short time who stays in character to better portray the new you. Some actors stay in character to better understand and support the character they play. You are doing the same thing. Staying in character to learn more about how the skinny you eats and lives.
As you better understand this concept, you will find you can use it for any and all changes you want to make in your life. Some changes will be simple, and some changes may be more difficult and take more attention to accomplish. Remember you are in charge of you, and you choose what lens you wish to live your life through.