It is almost the beginning of a new year, and you may be starting to think about the list of changes you want to make in your life? It is not such an easy thing. You can create several lists full of good changes. You can take the best from each of your lists and make a master list. Or you can do a seat of the pants list and write down the first ideas you think of.
Most of our resolution lists have to do with events external to us. Lose weight and exercise more. Stop doing something, and learn something else. Find a way to get ahead in our job, or maybe even find a new job. Get some training or take a class or two that will help us in the future.
Somewhere along the line the ghosts of past resolution lists make themselves known. We remember those things we were sure we were going to do. Somehow they all slipped away into the ether with our other good intentions.
The reason these lists of changes we create and rarely stick to is simple. The changes we make and sometimes create usually have nothing to do with us! They have more to do with people around us. This is why most resolutions do not last or come to pass.
It is okay to have that pie in the sky resolution. I have a few, and I think everyone should have at least one. Writing down a list of unrealistic goals however is making of a forgotten list. When you compile or recompile your list of resolutions, make them worthwhile meaningful resolutions about you. Being yourself is more satisfying than living the way others think you should.
Here is a general list of worthwhile resolutions followed by what they could mean for you:
I will be truthful to me.
I will learn what “I” believe in, and why I believe it.
I will eat more of the foods I really enjoy rather than easy foods I do not care for.
I will make more time for me.
I will create positive differences in my life, and lives of others along the way.
I will appreciate who I am and what I have.
As funny as it sounds, most of us lie to ourselves. We ignore things about ourselves we would rather not think about. We often do things we deep down do not want to do. When was the last time you were truthful with yourself?
What do you really believe and why do you believe it? Do you believe what you do because your parents raised you to believe this way? Whatever your belief system is, it will always feel a little artificial until you dissect it, rebuild it and make it your own.
Eating better does not mean giving up foods you really like. There are more ways to enjoy cheese than on a slice of pizza. Does the food you are eating really good or are you simply go through the motions of eating?
I am going to change those things I can change. I am going to look at my life and see where I am spending time doing things I prefer not to be do.
Think about what you can do that makes you feel good. Giving change to a shiftless panhandler doesn’t feel all that good, nor does it change anything. Do what makes you feel good, and you help others in the process.
What does my life mean to me? Am I happy with what I have? Is it because I feel I do not have enough? If you aren’t happy with what you have, sell it all and buy the biggest thing you can afford that makes you happy.
Your life is yours to live as you wish. You are the captain of your ship. Do not live to please other people unless this is something you enjoy doing. Don’t be miserable again this year. This year, learn to be yourself and please yourself. Then your life will feel good, and you will be happy.